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1月 15, 2021 1:48 下午 #4680
Maintaining a long-distance relationship is sometimes really hard. It sucks. Most Chinese students who study abroad are not able to stay at home for the Chinese New Year. The first time I missed the Chinese New Year with my family, I was upset. Even though I had a party with friends in the United States, even though we had a great time, it was not that great. It is a really special experience when you realize your family and friends are in the country across the entire Pacific or Eurasia. It could a hard time when you want a hug or touch, but the only thing that you can receive is a virtual call. However, experiences of long-distance relationships with the family will be a life lesson, and we will cherish the time with our families every time when we go back home.
1月 15, 2021 2:41 下午 #4682
I also find a really weird thing. It does not always happen but many people do that a lot. Some people, including both males and females, may already have a girlfriend or boyfriend, but when they study abroad, they will find another girlfriend or boyfriend (which means they have two at the same time). To me, they are jerks, but one tip for a long-distance relationship is, you really need to think about if you guys can be always committed to each other.
1月 15, 2021 9:45 下午 #4704flxs参与者32 pts
Long-distance relationships are often hard to maintain no matter if it is friendship or a romantic relationship. Since you and your friends (or boyfriend/girlfriend) live in different environments and have different social circles, it will be harder for you to find topics that both of you are interested in. Also, living in different time zones would make you have less time to reach each other, which might make you feel a sense of loss sometimes.
1月 22, 2021 7:05 下午 #5210
I very much agree with this and would like to explore friendship further. Because my Chinese university is a joint university of Sino-America, all courses, assignments, talks are in English. Students gradually use some words such as quiz、due、DDL、paper、Pro. While in traditional Chinese universities, they don’t call teachers’ professors’, they don’t have quizs and short papers. There were many times I find that they don’t know the Chinese meaning of the words or understand the content. Although I study in China, I always feel differences and misunderstandings, resulting in not as close as before. Even some friends think I’m “showing off” all-English education, but not in fact.
Xilin Zhang Kelly
1月 16, 2021 5:06 下午 #4734Tiffany Wang参与者36 pts
A long-distance relationship is indeed really hard to maintain. Thus, I think when you go abroad, you have to consider whether you (and your mate) can be loyal to each other. Particularly whether you can endure the loneliness without her/his accompany. If you can, it will be possible to keep a long-term relationship. As for me, I think the key is to keep a frequency of communication. Not only via WeChat or video chatting, but you can also share your daily life, such as photos or something. By the way, don’t hide your feelings and say something directly to her/him.
1月 16, 2021 5:44 下午 #4738Soleilin参与者20 pts
During the summer vacation of 2019, I went to Romania as a volunteer for 45 days. This is the first time I am so far away from home by myself, so it felt very different. For example, it was easier to be sad and emotional. As for the long-distance relationship between lovers, I have not experienced it myself, but there are many examples around me. Many people failed in this long-distance relationship, probably because they cannot stand loneliness and lack of trust in each other. I am a solo person from birth to now. I think lovers must keep in touch, learn to communicate to solve problems, and learn to understanding, tolerate, self-control and trust.
1月 17, 2021 11:56 上午 #4778
I think there is no problem to maintain relationships with your family members because it is a blood relation that connects you with them. You need to enrich your life so that you can find there is no time to be upset about missing your family members. You can focus on learning and enhancing yourself and go out with your friends to have new experiences in your spare time. You might be eager to see the world (distract attention) when you have different adventures. However, when you miss your family members, you can talk to them on the phone. The point is you need to be tough and upbeat; thinking about the reason you go aboard and it is not about crying for family.
1月 17, 2021 12:10 下午 #4779
Maintaining a long-distance relationship with your girlfriend/boyfriend is different from that with family members. However, keeping yourself positive about this relationship is the same and important point to maintain relationships. You should not think about you two are in different countries with time differences; instead, you two are missing each other and also strive for your future. It is better for you to apply for universities in the same counties or neighboring countries or you two might choose some relevant programs. You two can learn from each other because programs are often interdisciplinary. You can also send presents to him/her or you can go to his/her city to have a short break. You’d better know his/her new friend who is close so that you can know some bad situations that happened to his/her if he/she does not want to tell you.
1月 17, 2021 1:41 下午 #4783
Here I find a link that tells the successful examples of 3 couples who experienced and finished the long-distance relationship.
1月 18, 2021 12:26 上午 #4833Monica参与者
The long-distance relationship is a nightmare between couples, you can hardly imagine what damage a long period of inaccessibility will bring to the relationship, after all, you are not only far away from each other, the time difference is also different, habits and ways of life will also change, you stay abroad for a period of time, your mind will also change a lot. In any case, a few of my friends around me seem to have stuck with it.
It is normal to miss your family, and there is no other particularly good way, regular video calls and the like, can relieve a little, the regular contact between family members can be a great help to your mood.
1月 18, 2021 12:48 上午 #4840Caroline参与者
Long distance relationships are very chanllenging for many couples. My boyfriend and I had a long distance relatiaoship before, perhaps because communciation between us only through the cell phone which led to the communciation is not timely, and many problems can not be sovled in a timely manner. In short, a lot of problems happened to us at that time. However, as long as we understand each other, maybe long distance relationship is also a very simeple thing.
1月 18, 2021 10:53 上午 #4848gyel参与者18 pts
Long distance relationships can be difficult. It will work, with some effort. As long as each person is committed to the relationship and understand the ups and downs, then it can last. Most important things to do in Long distance relationship:
Communicate often. It is important that couples who are separated by miles, talk as much as you can. Communication will help breach the gap of distance.
远距离的关系可能很困难。 一定会努力的。 只要每个人都致力于这种关系并了解起伏，就可以持续下去。 远距离关系中最重要的事情：
经常交流。 重要的是，相距遥远的夫妻要尽可能多地讲话。 交流将有助于突破距离差距。
1月 18, 2021 1:09 下午 #4897StephenMMM参与者1 pt
My brother started going abroad in high school, and he couldn’t come back during the New Year. But when he comes back in the summer, we can still feel the feelings of being relatives. But this is inseparable from online communication in peacetime. If we lack common hobbies and common topics, our feelings and relationships will be difficult to maintain in a good state. So the most important thing to maintain this kind of long-distance relationship is to communicate more.
1月 18, 2021 4:04 下午 #4909Olivia参与者11 pts
For myself, I get a little frustrated when I have long-distance relationships with my family and friends because I miss my family. And my friends and I also have fewer common topics due to different experiences, and it is important to maintain the relationship properly in this case. As far as friends are concerned, you can share different lives to increase the communication of your feelings.就我自己而言，当我和家人朋友有远距离的关系时，我会有些失望，因为我会想念我的家人。并且我和朋友由于经历的不同也会导致共同话题的减少，这种情况下适当地维持关系是很重要的。就朋友而言，你们可以分享不同的生活来增加感情的交流。
1月 18, 2021 4:32 下午 #4912Wan Sisi参与者17 pts
I always keep a long distance relationship with my parents because they work in another city. we meet face to face one time a year but we still have a close relationship. we communicate on phone each week and we will share the happiness or the unhappiness, it connects our relationship even we have a far distance. Besides, I send my parents gifts on some special holiday and they also send to me, it is a good way to connect family relationship.
1月 18, 2021 4:54 下午 #4914Charlotte Sun参与者28 pts
As for family, I think it’s easy. Just make a voice or video call when convenient, share them with your current images and tell them how much you miss them and love them. However, as for lovers, it could be hard. You must believe in your boyfriend/girlfriend and do not test his/her loyalty to you. Also, keep in touch and try to understand each other.
至于家庭，我认为这很容易。 只要在方便时拨打语音或视频电话，和他们分享您近期的照片，并告诉他们您有多想念他们。 但是，对于恋人来说，这可能很难。 您必须相信您的男朋友/女朋友，不要测试他/她对您的忠诚度。 另外，保持联系并尝试彼此理解。
1月 20, 2021 11:33 下午 #5077Anastasia参与者
Distance should not be the restriction of relationships. For relatives, such as mom and dad, they really want to know what your life is like, whether you can adapt to a foreign life, and whether you are healthy. Mom and Dad have a lot of advice, but you must not think that this is nonsense, this is a kind of caring. Therefore, respond more to your parents, telling them about the current situation of your life and so on can help maintain the relationship with your loved ones. 对于亲人来说，例如爸爸妈妈，他们真的很想知道你的生活是怎样的，是否能适应外国的生活，是否健康。爸爸妈妈的叮嘱很多，但你们千万不要觉得这是废话，这是关爱的一种表现。因此，多给父母回应，告诉他们关于你们生活的近况等有助于维系和亲人之间的关系。
—– Anastasia Wang
1月 21, 2021 10:45 下午 #5149Anastasia参与者
Healthy relationship can make you feel happier and feel less pressure. I find a website which gives very good tips about how to maintain healthy relationships. 健康的关系使你能感到更加快乐以及更少的压力。我找到了一个关于维持健康人际关系的网站，里面有很好的建议。
There is the link: https://www.amherst.edu/campuslife/health-safety-wellness/counseling/self_care/healthy_relationships/10_tips_for_health_realtionships
—– Anastasia Wang
1月 22, 2021 7:26 下午 #5211
The problem of distance love is that the emotional and physical needs are not satisfied, and the most critical factor is the sense of security. Due to jet lag interval, foreign long-distance relationship problems are caused for not replying to the message in time. On their own, they can improve the psychological quality, enhance the trust in each other. For couples, remember each holiday and anniversary, increase happiness and satisfaction. Try to feel each other even if you live in two places.
Xilin Zhang Kelly
1月 26, 2021 11:21 上午 #5497Bonnie参与者
I quite agree with you.It’s true that long-distance relationship maintenance is a science.For example, my way of contact with my friends is to find the intersection.It’s not just about the time you spent together in the past.You have to have time to listen to her.Then search for the appropriate information.For example, recommend TV shows to each other and agree to see a movie together.Then discuss ideas together.I think distance is good sometimes.For example, my relationship with my family is much better when we have distance.But when they met, they quarreled.
1月 22, 2021 9:43 下午 #5216
In a foreign country, it is essential to keep in touch with your family. Weekly video with your family on time (setting a fixed time will create a sense of ceremony to help you feel at ease in a dull or uncomfortable foreign life with a positive attitude), talk about anecdotes in a foreign country. Also, talk about your success and failure here will effectively alleviate homesickness, comfort your hearts.
Xilin Zhang Kelly
1月 26, 2021 4:34 下午 #5590NIsekoi参与者
Regarding long distance relationships, communication is the most important thing. You may tell your friends, family numbers, and even boyfriend/girlfriend you love them and you miss them so much. Don’t be afraid to express yourself.
关于长距离关系，沟通是最重要的。 您可能会告诉您的朋友，家庭电话，甚至男朋友/女友，您爱他们，却非常想念他们。 不要害怕表达自己。
1月 26, 2021 7:30 下午 #5609Echo Shang参与者12 pts
During the pandemic, I had my first experience of a long distant relationship. Due to covid-19, my boyfriend and I were unable to go back to school, so we had to rely on internet contact. I think the key to maintaining a long-distance relationship is trusting each other rather than constant suspicion as well as questioning. But long distance relationships while studying abroad may also have to take into account factors like time difference, which makes the situation be more challenging. But if you trust each other enough, there is no problem that can’t be solved.
1月 26, 2021 9:29 下午 #5630Corgi参与者38 pts
1月 27, 2021 5:12 下午 #5715
Maintaining a long distance relationship is quite difficult because it completely changes the pattern you get along with someone. Make sure to build some breathing room into the times you spend together. It is not wasted time, but rather helping both of you breathe and connect again.
1月 27, 2021 5:24 下午 #5718
There is no doubt that long distance relationships require some sacrifice. But it’s important to be careful not to sacrifice more than is necessary. Otherwise, it may breed resentment and regret over time. I think you still need to be yourself when you are in a long distance relationship and make sure that you are trying your best to make the most of the life you have in where you are living in.
1月 27, 2021 5:35 下午 #5723
I think trust is the most important thing in a relationship, especially in a long distance relationship. The work to build and keep trust should go both ways, otherwise, the relationship is very fragile and very likely to fail in long distance experience. For example, when he/she forgot to answer the phone due to jet lag or various reasons, do you suspect that he/she is hiding something to you?
1月 27, 2021 7:38 下午 #5739zhanjial参与者
College is the best time to grow up and become independent. At first, loneliness is scary. But it will also make you stronger and will allow you to listen to your heart and become more independent. The time difference can make it hard to call your family at any time. But don’t let this scare you, you will become a stronger person. We are finally here, and I need to become someone who can solve my own problems.
1月 28, 2021 12:04 上午 #5762Xuyunan参与者
I think how to overcome loneliness is a topic that everyone needs to spend a long time learning. Even in a very familiar environment with good friends around, I often feel very lonely. But what is more special is that I rarely miss home because I have been estranged from my family since I was young. The advantage of this situation is that I will not feel pain because of missing my hometown. The bad thing is that I, therefore, place my sense of belonging and dependence on intimacy. I think I can tolerate long-distance love because I don’t need this person to stay by my side to make me feel safe. However, I couldn’t bear to break up with me in a long-distance relationship. This makes me feel that I can’t go into the cause and make up for the misunderstanding caused by distance. The feeling of trying to find the answer but not knowing how to start is very torture.
1月 28, 2021 12:18 上午 #5764Xuyunan参与者
I also experienced a long-distance relationship during the epidemic. The boyfriends at that time were already very good friends before the relationship was established, and each other was very serious about this relationship. But there is still no time and distance that can survive. I think that a long-distance relationship requires a sufficient emotional foundation for each and sufficient mental strength for both parties. Not only that but also need enough luck. Otherwise, it is very likely to fall into a cliché ending.
1月 28, 2021 10:07 下午 #5846Yinuoz参与者
I think for a long-distance love, the most important thing is trust. Only enough trust can maintain the relationship between two people. Most of the time, the words on the Internet can’t fully express everyone’s true thoughts, which is also the biggest obstacle for long-distance lovers to fall in love. So behind the cold words, you have to believe in each other’s love.
1月 28, 2021 11:02 下午 #5863
When you’re in a long-distance with your lover, the most important thing is to maintain trust. It’s important to respect each other. Suspicions and arguments are the most critical factors in a long-distance relationship, so it’s essential to keep your partner informed when you’re socializing with someone of the opposite sex or when you’re alone to avoid unnecessary suspicion. Secondly, positively sharing funny things can make a long-distance relationship warm up. If you feel uncomfortable in your heart, speak up in time and solve problems on the spot. There is no way to meet each other in time to find you are not happy; a person who suffocated for a long time will vent in the future one day. In other words, people living away from each other need to trust and rely on each other to survive the difficult years.
Xilin Zhang Kelly
1月 29, 2021 4:33 下午 #5951Liii参与者
In the long-distance, long-term barrier, the test is family and love and friendship. Previous friends can not meet, can not be invited to eat and drink, so feelings may gradually fade. And to prevent your cherished companies from being forgotten, you can ask about them via social APP、 phone or video calls. Don’t feel like you do n’ t have to call without saying anything, and it makes you feel like you value your friendship. Besides, if possible, inviting them to your city on holidays is the happiest thing to do.
1月 29, 2021 7:11 下午 #5986
This link is about how to Sustain a Long-Distance Relationship. Some tips maybe useful.
1月 29, 2021 8:08 下午 #6027Laura0817参与者1 pt
As we grow up, relationship issues have become one of the issues that cannot be ignored. However, due to multiple factors, we are likely to face the situation of being away from our lovers. So how to solve it?
I think this page of the website will give you many effective suggestions. https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/347100479
1月 29, 2021 8:55 下午 #6040jiexx参与者
I think the important thing about maintaining a long-distance relationship is that two people have a common goal. It is a very happy thing for two people to move forward towards a better future.
1月 30, 2021 2:51 上午 #6112
Young people are always concerned about romantic relationships. But in the long-distance situation, it is difficult to maintain a romantic relationship, especially in the transnational relationship. What I want to say is that we’d better keep an independent relationship with the people we love and believe in each other. Because of the time difference, we can’t keep in touch with our lovers all the time. Therefore, we should learn to be independent rather than over dependent when we are not accompanied by our lovers.
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1月 30, 2021 3:18 上午 #612117参与者
Many people say long distance relationships are hard to maintain, and it’s true. My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. One of us is in Wenzhou and the other is in Hangzhou. We probably don’t see each other very often, only on holidays. Transportation is also very expensive. A lot of people around me have broken up because of long-distance relationships. But I think breaking up is very emotional, especially in a foreign country, you may be more lonely. I’ve found some advice on cross-cultural relationships.
3月 11, 2021 7:46 下午 #6676Cheyanne参与者
If both lovers are very confident in their relationship and stick to it, I believe that the time in a different place or a foreign country can pass. From another point of view, the time in a different place or a foreign country is actually a test of the relationship between the two parties. If the last persistence succeeds, then this relationship experience must be very possible. The independent personal time also provides more personal space for each other and more opportunities for thinking.
3月 11, 2021 7:51 下午 #6677Cheyanne参与者
As for the long-distance family relationship, I think to some extent this is a consideration of your independent personality. In China, the relationship between many parents and their children is closer than that in European and American countries, and there are also some instances of moral kidnapping. This solo experience of studying abroad can bring my parents and myself to grow up, and exercise my parents as well. Of course, regular greetings with your parents every month are also indispensable. They must also hope that you will live a safe and healthy life on the other side of the ocean.
3月 15, 2021 5:33 下午 #6777JocelynZZZ参与者
Being in a different place or a foreign country is a challenge for couples, and the specific situation requires specific analysis. Although the love between two people should not be defeated by time and distance, these two factors do have an impact on any relationship. The same is true for families as well. When we are far away from home, we will inevitably feel homesick, especially when we are wronged or sad. It is the same for parents and other relatives. They are always thinking of us, caring and worrying. I hope that these decisions made by everyone are worthwhile.
3月 21, 2021 8:13 下午 #6875Bob参与者
In my opinion, besides academic pressure, the biggest problem of studying abroad is family affection. When we leave home and leave our country, and come to a foreign country to study alone, although we may have friends to accompany us, we will inevitably feel lonely. Also, Parents may always pay attention to the news, temperature, weather, etc. of the state in the country where we study. In addition, as for the generation of grandparents, they may not understand why you have to travel so far to study in another country. For my grandmother, her biggest wish is that I can eat well, dress well and accompany her more.
3月 21, 2021 8:24 下午 #6877Bob参与者
I think the long-distance relationship between lovers is more difficult to maintain. Because we are in different countries, it is almost impossible to meet (maybe once a year). Moreover, in a new environment, seeing a new world, meeting new friends, and facing new learning pressure, people’s habits, ways of thinking, and even values may change gradually. All these are difficulties for lovers to maintain their feelings. (although I don’t have a girlfriend yet) I think there must be difficulties, but we should give both our lover and our love enough confidence to keep going together.
3月 21, 2021 9:16 下午 #6882mtianh参与者
The long-distance relationship is really a hurdle in a couple’s relationship. If the two parties cannot overcome the differences in life and learning brought about by the long-distance relationship, it should be difficult for the relationship to go on. But if you can overcome long-distance relationships, then there should be no difficulties to embarrass you.
The biggest problem with long-distance relationships is that both parties cannot empathize with the other person’s life. The most important thing in falling in love is to be able to understand each other, but the completely different living environment and the lack of participation in each other’s life may be the reason for the quarrel between the two parties.
3月 31, 2021 10:05 上午 #7100Connie 0718参与者
Long-distance or even international relationships can be very challenging for couples.
If the other party is not around, it may lead to the inability to be with each other when they need themselves. One of my friends just broke up with his girlfriend because he was in China, but his girlfriend was studying in Canada. They both felt very tired and peacefully broke up. I think the most important thing in long-distance love is to trust each other and give yourself and each other enough private space. This article gives ten suggestions to maintain a long-distance love. (https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/truths-about-long-distance-relationships/1543496)
Wang Kangyi Connie0718
4月 8, 2021 4:17 下午 #7247Hu Haopeng参与者
我认为异地恋是最难维持的感情，这就是一种柏拉图式爱情，就算他们可以依靠通讯工具来保持联系，但是这也是很难满足的，因为他们的欲望不能得到满足。所以，这可能就是为什么毕业季又是分手季的原因吧。 think long-distance love is the most difficult relationship to maintain. This is a kind of platonic love. Even if they can rely on communication tools to keep in touch, it is difficult to satisfy because their desires cannot be satisfied. So, this may be why the graduation season is the breakup season again.
4月 12, 2021 7:13 下午 #7326MeganMa参与者
Different people have different feelings and opinions on long-distance feelings. Some people pursue the happiness of getting along day and night when they are in love and seeking close company. In their view, love cannot be an illusory feeling, and only real things can have a final result. When maintaining a long-distance relationship with such a person, people are often frustrated. But for some people, love is spiritual food. Even if two people can’t get along day and night, they will care about each other. But in my opinion, distance is a problem, and distance can make communication between two people a problem. And communication and company are essential things in a relationship. After all, love is not like family affection, and it is a very fragile thing.
4月 18, 2021 4:40 下午 #7405roey参与者
I think long-distance love does have an impact on a relationship, but the impact is different for everyone. It depends on one’s personality and mentality. Distance doesn’t necessarily mean that the gap between two people increases. I think in a relationship, common progress and common topics are the most important. Although the two people are in different countries, with different circles of friends and different lifestyles. Maybe there’s no common language. But in fact, as long as two people’s goal has been to manage their feelings carefully, share the interesting things that happen every day with each other, and have the patience to listen to each other’s daily experience. Only in this way can two people be on the same channel all the time.
4月 28, 2021 1:47 下午 #7681Zhe Sun参与者
Whether you can adapt to a long-distance relationship, I think it depends on the individual. Some people don’t like being alone and like to gather with familiar people, just like social animals. People of this type often weep bitterly because of separation. The other type of people, like me, has no attachment to familiar environments, can better adapt to new environments and are not disgusted with loneliness. Sometimes there is no special homesickness after leaving home for more than half a year. For couples, I think it depends on mutual trust and spiritual resonance.
5月 17, 2021 11:04 上午 #8001Weeknd参与者
No matter how busy you are in school or your life, set aside a short period of time on the weekend, after dinner, or before a morning activity, to have an intimate video call with your parents. Sometimes, parents do not want to talk with you, but want to see your appearance, listen to your voice, see your smile. In addition, we should learn to communicate selectively. Of course, some things do not need to be told to our parents. I think our parents will also understand. Every generation has its own pressures and responsibilities, its own challenges and pressures, and its own blows and tribulations. There is no need to tell the elders and only add to the worries. There is no need to block your parents from seeing your WeChat Moments because it has a grouping function, you can selectively show your life to your parents.
5月 18, 2021 9:39 下午 #8113
My boyfriend studies in Liverpool, the United Kingdom. Most time I feel happy even we are trying to stay in our long-distance relationship. However, sometimes I feel that it is quite hard for me because there is always a time difference and you cannot see him (well you can virtually see).
5月 20, 2021 7:43 下午 #8151Chris参与者
Although I was in school, I would have a video regularly, and they would talk about what interesting things they had bought for their home recently, and I would talk about what delicious food I had eaten and what interesting things happened in class
5月 21, 2021 8:50 上午 #8168Amy Shi参与者
I think the main reason for a long distance relationship to last is that two people understand each other. In a long distance relationship, two people cannot see each other and can only contact each other through mobile phones, so sometimes we cannot feel each other’s true feelings. Solving this problem requires both parties to communicate regularly and understand each other.Besides,in a long distance relationship, we need to be more forgiving to make the relationship last longer.
我认为想要保持一段异地恋，两个人最重要的是互相理解对方。 在一段远距离感情中，两个人无法见到对方并且只能通过手机联系。 因此有时我们无法感受到对方的真实情感。 因此想要解决异地恋中的问题， 就需要双方经常沟通并且理解对方。更重要的是，想要保持一段异地恋，我们需要更加宽容的对待对方，不要因为一点小事就互相伤害。
5月 25, 2021 10:14 上午 #8253LoganY参与者
Long distance, indeed, brings many new challenges to relationships.
First of all, the most frustrating thing about being long distance is that those needs that are most pressing and that one needs to respond to cannot be met. Because of the increased distance, the immediate impact is that communication between couples is limited by space and time. For example, when one person’s life is experiencing challenges and changes, feeling sad and needing companionship, the other person may not be around to give a simple hug; even because of the time difference, one’s desire to talk to one’s partner will be required to pause (waiting for when the partner can be online). And this state is not once or twice, but for a long time.
Secondly, it becomes more difficult for partners to communicate emotionally with each other. Due to the physical distance, couples can only communicate their feelings or even solve problems in their relationship through videos and newsletters. This medium can transmit few emotional clues, and it is difficult to clearly perceive each other’s emotions and feelings, so it is inevitable that there will be unclear expressions and misunderstanding of each other’s meaning.
Finally, people in a long-distance state may need to pay more time and financial costs if they want to break this state. It is also a really daunting expense for students and newly working workers.
But does that mean that long-distance relationships are harder to manage than close relationships?
A long distance relationship has its own unique advantages. For example, long distance couples have a stronger desire to express their love than close couples, so this makes it easier for long distance couples to have deeper spiritual communication. It is clear that long distance is not a disadvantage to the relationship, because of the practical factors that temporarily can not get together, we can certainly operate a good and healthy relationship.
Here is a link to test the stability of long distance relationship: https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/PZFSvn0hUnkhQ9xLlDEmdg
6月 5, 2021 11:30 下午 #93861452034116参与者
For parents, even though we are far away, I still have video calls with them often. And I think video calls can bring us closer than phone calls. I will communicate with them in time if there are difficulties or happy events. In my opinion, although my parents do not have as much professional knowledge as I know, their experience in life can guide me and improve my interpersonal skills.
6月 6, 2021 8:02 下午 #9514Botgeralt参与者
It is always difficult to maintain a long distance romantic relationship,
try to believe each other, and talk about the future,
you need to meet each other at fixed period,
set a particular time for phone call, so that you won’t bother each other when he or she is busy
6月 6, 2021 8:06 下午 #9518Botgeralt参与者
Family relationship is always the strongest bond,
regular communication by phone or video will release your pressure and
your parents won’t worry too much.
Their experience will help you a lot, trust them and open your heart
6月 8, 2021 11:23 上午 #9754Bella Guo参与者
I went to Korea as a volunteer for 45 days in the summer vacation of 2019, which was the longest time I left my parents and boyfriend. Although our experiences are different, I often share my life with my parents and call my boyfriend every night before going to bed. Because I made friends soon, traveling together, eating together, and working together, the time spent very sufficiently, and loneliness was reduced. The rapidity of social media has greatly reduced the sense of distance. In a relationship, distance is not the most important issue, the key is whether both sides really like each other, whether they are loyal, whether they will work hard to maintain the relationship.
6月 8, 2021 11:26 上午 #9755Bella Guo参与者
I think the biggest problem of long-distance love is not to communicate and trust. He may not get to your point because he doesn’t touch your life. That’s because you don’t talk with him enough.
6月 8, 2021 3:07 下午 #9770Ms.Marple参与者
In my opinion, the effects of distance on relationships are not absolute, and the most significant thing is communication. In other words, you need to learn to understand and tolerate each other’s thinking. You know, no two people in this world are exactly the same, so we should accept the difference in others, as such difference might more easily bring problems in a long distance relationship.
For this topic, maybe I can share my sad experience here. I used to have a very close friend. Although we only meet offline once a year because of the distance, we use social media to connect with each other frequently. However, in the past few months, we have had some disputes about the meaning of something. I was such a stubborn person that I insisted that my idea was right and waited for her compromise, but what I finally have waited is the estrangement between us. Now I’m trying to repair our friendship, but I know in my heart that it will never be the same. I hope you won’t make the same mistake as I did.
6月 9, 2021 1:10 下午 #9897
My suggestion is first, keep frequent contact with relatives and friends in China. Modern technology is very advanced, and mobile phone video calls are like face-to-face communication. More communication can ensure intimacy. Second, establish a new social network locally. New friends are also very important and can help people in a foreign country to get rid of loneliness. The following can help you better understand loneliness: