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    • #4680 Score: 2
      yumekai2
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      24 pts

      Maintaining a long-distance relationship is sometimes really hard. It sucks. Most Chinese students who study abroad are not able to stay at home for the Chinese New Year. The first time I missed the Chinese New Year with my family, I was upset. Even though I had a party with friends in the United States, even though we had a great time, it was not that great. It is a really special experience when you realize your family and friends are in the country across the entire Pacific or Eurasia. It could a hard time when you want a hug or touch, but the only thing that you can receive is a virtual call. However, experiences of long-distance relationships with the family will be a life lesson, and we will cherish the time with our families every time when we go back home.

      维持一段远距离的关系有时候真的挺难的。大多数的中国留学生都无法在家里过春节。我第一次没有和家人一起过春节的时候,其实挺难过的。虽然那时候我在美国,可以和同学一起过春节,虽然那个时候我们也都很开心,但其实并没有那么开心。当你意识到家人和朋友跟你隔着一整个太平洋或欧亚大陆的时候,这种感觉其实很奇妙。当你想要抱抱他们或者摸一摸他们的时候,唯一可以做的只是视频或者语音电话。但是,只有当真的体验过这种远距离,我们才会越来越珍惜珍惜与家人在一起的时光。

      Yumeka.

    • #4682 Score: 1
      yumekai2
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      24 pts

      I also find a really weird thing. It does not always happen but many people do that a lot. Some people, including both males and females, may already have a girlfriend or boyfriend, but when they study abroad, they will find another girlfriend or boyfriend (which means they have two at the same time). To me, they are jerks, but one tip for a long-distance relationship is, you really need to think about if you guys can be always committed to each other.

      我发现了一件挺奇怪的事。虽然不是每个人都会这样,但周围挺多人都是这样的。就是不管是男生还是女生,他们可能本来已经有女朋友或者男朋友了,但是他们出国读书以后,又在当地找了一个女朋友或者男朋友。我个人感觉,这些人实在是太渣了。但是由此也可以看出,在决定异国恋之前,真的应该好好想一想,两个人到底能不能忠于对方。

      Yumeka.

    • #4704 Score: 1
      flxs
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      32 pts

      Long-distance relationships are often hard to maintain no matter if it is friendship or a romantic relationship. Since you and your friends (or boyfriend/girlfriend) live in different environments and have different social circles, it will be harder for you to find topics that both of you are interested in. Also, living in different time zones would make you have less time to reach each other, which might make you feel a sense of loss sometimes.
      不管是友情还是恋爱关系,异地恋往往很难维持。由于你和你的朋友(或男友/女友)生活在不同的环境中,有不同的社交圈,所以你很难找到你们双方感兴趣的话题。另外,生活在不同的时区,会让你们联系对方的时间减少,这可能会让你有时候有一种失落感。

      flxs

      • #5210 Score: 2
        Xilin Zhang Kelly
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        20 pts

        我非常赞成这一点,并想对友谊进一步探讨。由于我就读的中国大学是中美合资的,所有课程、作业、交流都是英文,逐渐习以为常地运用一些单词比如:quiz、due、DDL、paper、Pro.等。而在传统中国大学,他们并不叫老师‘教授’,也没有小测试和短篇论文。许多时候我发现朋友们不知道我所说单词的中文意思,也不理解内容。虽然我在中国读书,但总觉得存在差异与误会,导致不像以前那么亲密。甚至有些朋友认为我在“炫耀”全英教育,但事实上并没有。

        I very much agree with this and would like to explore friendship further. Because my Chinese university is a joint university of Sino-America, all courses, assignments, talks are in English. Students gradually use some words such as quiz、due、DDL、paper、Pro. While in traditional Chinese universities, they don’t call teachers’ professors’, they don’t have quizs and short papers. There were many times I find that they don’t know the Chinese meaning of the words or understand the content. Although I study in China, I always feel differences and misunderstandings, resulting in not as close as before. Even some friends think I’m “showing off” all-English education, but not in fact.

        Xilin Zhang Kelly

    • #4734 Score: 1
      Tiffany Wang
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      36 pts

      A long-distance relationship is indeed really hard to maintain. Thus, I think when you go abroad, you have to consider whether you (and your mate) can be loyal to each other. Particularly whether you can endure the loneliness without her/his accompany. If you can, it will be possible to keep a long-term relationship. As for me, I think the key is to keep a frequency of communication. Not only via WeChat or video chatting, but you can also share your daily life, such as photos or something. By the way, don’t hide your feelings and say something directly to her/him.
      异地恋确实很难维持。因此,我认为当你出国的时候,你必须考虑你(和你的伴侣)是否可以忠诚于对方。特别是,你是否能忍受没有她/他陪伴的孤独。如果可以的话,将有可能保持长期的关系。对于我来说,我认为关键是要保持频繁的沟通。不仅通过微信或视频聊天,你也可以分享你的日常生活,如照片或其他东西。顺便说一下,不要隐藏你的感觉,直接对她/他说些什么。

      —-Tiffany Wang

    • #4738 Score: 1
      Soleilin
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      20 pts

      During the summer vacation of 2019, I went to Romania as a volunteer for 45 days. This is the first time I am so far away from home by myself, so it felt very different. For example, it was easier to be sad and emotional. As for the long-distance relationship between lovers, I have not experienced it myself, but there are many examples around me. Many people failed in this long-distance relationship, probably because they cannot stand loneliness and lack of trust in each other. I am a solo person from birth to now. I think lovers must keep in touch, learn to communicate to solve problems, and learn to understanding, tolerate, self-control and trust.
      在2019年的暑假,我去到了罗马尼亚做志愿者,时间为45天。这是我第一次自己一个人离家这么远,所以就感觉很不一样。例如,更加容易伤感、情绪化。至于情侣之间的远距离关系,我自己还没有体会过,但身边有很多例子。很多人都在这场远距离恋爱中失败了,可能是因为他们受不了孤独和缺乏对对方的信任。我一个从出生到现在都是solo的人,认为一定要保持联系,要学会沟通解决问题,要学会理解、包容、自控和信任。

      —- Soleilin

    • #4778 Score: 0
      GloTTT
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      I think there is no problem to maintain relationships with your family members because it is a blood relation that connects you with them. You need to enrich your life so that you can find there is no time to be upset about missing your family members. You can focus on learning and enhancing yourself and go out with your friends to have new experiences in your spare time. You might be eager to see the world (distract attention) when you have different adventures. However, when you miss your family members, you can talk to them on the phone. The point is you need to be tough and upbeat; thinking about the reason you go aboard and it is not about crying for family.
      我认为和家人保持关系是没有问题的,因为你们之间是血亲关系。你需要丰富你的生活,这样你就没有时间为想念家人而烦恼了。你可以专注于学习和提升自己,在业余时间和朋友一起出去体验新的东西。当你有不同的冒险经历时,你可能渴望看看这个世界(分散注意力)。然而,当你想念你的家人时,你可以通过电话和他们交谈。重点是你需要坚强和乐观;想想你出国的原因, 原因不是为家人哭泣。
      GloTTT

    • #4779 Score: 0
      GloTTT
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      Maintaining a long-distance relationship with your girlfriend/boyfriend is different from that with family members. However, keeping yourself positive about this relationship is the same and important point to maintain relationships. You should not think about you two are in different countries with time differences; instead, you two are missing each other and also strive for your future. It is better for you to apply for universities in the same counties or neighboring countries or you two might choose some relevant programs. You two can learn from each other because programs are often interdisciplinary. You can also send presents to him/her or you can go to his/her city to have a short break. You’d better know his/her new friend who is close so that you can know some bad situations that happened to his/her if he/she does not want to tell you.
      和女友/男友保持异地恋不同于和家人保持异地恋。然而,保持对这段关系的积极态度也是维持这段关系的重要一点。你不应该想到你俩在不同的国家有时差;相反,你们两个想念彼此,也为自己的未来而努力。你最好申请同一县或相邻国家的大学,或者你们两个可以选择一些相关的项目。你们两个可以互相学习,因为项目通常是跨学科的。你也可以送礼物给他/她或你可以去他/她的城市有一个短暂的休息。你最好了解他/她的新朋友,如果他/她不想告诉你,你就可以知道发生在他/她身上的一些糟糕的情况。
      GloTTT

    • #4783 Score: 0
      GloTTT
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      Here I find a link that tells the successful examples of 3 couples who experienced and finished the long-distance relationship.
      这里我找到了一个链接,讲述了三对经历并结束异地恋的成功的例子.
      link: https://www.studyinternational.com/news/maintain-long-distance-relationship-study-abroad/
      GloTTT

    • #4833 Score: 0
      Monica
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      The long-distance relationship is a nightmare between couples, you can hardly imagine what damage a long period of inaccessibility will bring to the relationship, after all, you are not only far away from each other, the time difference is also different, habits and ways of life will also change, you stay abroad for a period of time, your mind will also change a lot. In any case, a few of my friends around me seem to have stuck with it.
      It is normal to miss your family, and there is no other particularly good way, regular video calls and the like, can relieve a little, the regular contact between family members can be a great help to your mood.
      异地恋简直就是情侣间噩梦,你很难想象长时间的无法接触会给感情带来什么损失,毕竟你们之间不仅距离远,时差也不同,生活习惯和方式也会变化,你在国外待一段时间,你的思想也会发生很大的变化,总之我周围的朋友好像很少有坚持下去的。
      想家人是很正常的,也没有其他特别好的办法,定期视频电话之类的,可以缓解一下,家人间的经常联系对你的情绪帮助是很大的。

      Monica

    • #4840 Score: 0
      Caroline
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      Long distance relationships are very chanllenging for many couples. My boyfriend and I had a long distance relatiaoship before, perhaps because communciation between us only through the cell phone which led to the communciation is not timely, and many problems can not be sovled in a timely manner. In short, a lot of problems happened to us at that time. However, as long as we understand each other, maybe long distance relationship is also a very simeple thing.
      对于很多情侣来说,异地是非常考验两人感情的。我和我男朋友之前有异地过,也许因为我们交流只通过手机导致了沟通不及时,很多问题没有办法及时解决,总之那段时间我们之间发生了很多问题。但现在来说,只要互相理解对方,异地也是很简单的一件事。

      Caroline

    • #4848 Score: 1
      gyel
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      18 pts

      Long distance relationships can be difficult. It will work, with some effort. As long as each person is committed to the relationship and understand the ups and downs, then it can last. Most important things to do in Long distance relationship:
      Communicate often. It is important that couples who are separated by miles, talk as much as you can. Communication will help breach the gap of distance.
      远距离的关系可能很困难。 一定会努力的。 只要每个人都致力于这种关系并了解起伏,就可以持续下去。 远距离关系中最重要的事情:
      经常交流。 重要的是,相距遥远的夫妻要尽可能多地讲话。 交流将有助于突破距离差距。

      Sigyel

    • #4897 Score: 0
      StephenMMM
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      1 pt

      My brother started going abroad in high school, and he couldn’t come back during the New Year. But when he comes back in the summer, we can still feel the feelings of being relatives. But this is inseparable from online communication in peacetime. If we lack common hobbies and common topics, our feelings and relationships will be difficult to maintain in a good state. So the most important thing to maintain this kind of long-distance relationship is to communicate more.
      我的弟弟从高中开始出国,他过年都没法回来。但是当他夏天回来的时候,我们还是能感受到作为亲人的感情。不过这和平时在网上的交流分不开。如果我们缺乏共同的爱好,共同的话题,我们的感情和关系是难以维持在一个很好的状态的。所以保持这种远距离关系时,最重要的就是多交流。
      StephenMMM

    • #4909 Score: 0
      Olivia
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      11 pts

      For myself, I get a little frustrated when I have long-distance relationships with my family and friends because I miss my family. And my friends and I also have fewer common topics due to different experiences, and it is important to maintain the relationship properly in this case. As far as friends are concerned, you can share different lives to increase the communication of your feelings.就我自己而言,当我和家人朋友有远距离的关系时,我会有些失望,因为我会想念我的家人。并且我和朋友由于经历的不同也会导致共同话题的减少,这种情况下适当地维持关系是很重要的。就朋友而言,你们可以分享不同的生活来增加感情的交流。

      Olivia

    • #4912 Score: 3
      Wan Sisi
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      17 pts

      I always keep a long distance relationship with my parents because they work in another city. we meet face to face one time a year but we still have a close relationship. we communicate on phone each week and we will share the happiness or the unhappiness, it connects our relationship even we have a far distance. Besides, I send my parents gifts on some special holiday and they also send to me, it is a good way to connect family relationship.
      我一直与我的父母保持长距离关系,因为他们在另一个城市工作。我们一年见面一次,但我们仍然保持着密切的关系。我们每周都会通过电话交流,我们将分享幸福或不幸福,即使我们相距遥远,它也会连接我们之间的关系。此外,我在特殊的假期给父母送礼物,他们也寄给我,这是联系家庭关系的好方法。
      –Wan Sisi(Celia)

    • #4914 Score: 1
      Charlotte Sun
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      28 pts

      As for family, I think it’s easy. Just make a voice or video call when convenient, share them with your current images and tell them how much you miss them and love them. However, as for lovers, it could be hard. You must believe in your boyfriend/girlfriend and do not test his/her loyalty to you. Also, keep in touch and try to understand each other.
      至于家庭,我认为这很容易。 只要在方便时拨打语音或视频电话,和他们分享您近期的照片,并告诉他们您有多想念他们。 但是,对于恋人来说,这可能很难。 您必须相信您的男朋友/女朋友,不要测试他/她对您的忠诚度。 另外,保持联系并尝试彼此理解。

      Charlotte Sun

    • #5077 Score: 0
      Anastasia
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      Distance should not be the restriction of relationships. For relatives, such as mom and dad, they really want to know what your life is like, whether you can adapt to a foreign life, and whether you are healthy. Mom and Dad have a lot of advice, but you must not think that this is nonsense, this is a kind of caring. Therefore, respond more to your parents, telling them about the current situation of your life and so on can help maintain the relationship with your loved ones. 对于亲人来说,例如爸爸妈妈,他们真的很想知道你的生活是怎样的,是否能适应外国的生活,是否健康。爸爸妈妈的叮嘱很多,但你们千万不要觉得这是废话,这是关爱的一种表现。因此,多给父母回应,告诉他们关于你们生活的近况等有助于维系和亲人之间的关系。

      —– Anastasia Wang

    • #5149 Score: 0
      Anastasia
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      Healthy relationship can make you feel happier and feel less pressure. I find a website which gives very good tips about how to maintain healthy relationships. 健康的关系使你能感到更加快乐以及更少的压力。我找到了一个关于维持健康人际关系的网站,里面有很好的建议。
      There is the link: https://www.amherst.edu/campuslife/health-safety-wellness/counseling/self_care/healthy_relationships/10_tips_for_health_realtionships

      —– Anastasia Wang

    • #5211 Score: 2
      Xilin Zhang Kelly
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      20 pts

      异地恋产生问题主要是因为情感与身体需求得不到满足,其中最关键的因素是安全感。异国恋更因时差间隔导致很多时候不能及时回复消息。从自己出发,可以提升心理素质,增强对对方的信任感。对于情侣两人来说,可以记住每一个节日和纪念日,增加双方的幸福感和满足感,即便身居两地也能感受到对方的存在。

      The problem of distance love is that the emotional and physical needs are not satisfied, and the most critical factor is the sense of security. Due to jet lag interval, foreign long-distance relationship problems are caused for not replying to the message in time. On their own, they can improve the psychological quality, enhance the trust in each other. For couples, remember each holiday and anniversary, increase happiness and satisfaction. Try to feel each other even if you live in two places.

      Xilin Zhang Kelly

      • #5497 Score: 0
        Bonnie
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        I quite agree with you.It’s true that long-distance relationship maintenance is a science.For example, my way of contact with my friends is to find the intersection.It’s not just about the time you spent together in the past.You have to have time to listen to her.Then search for the appropriate information.For example, recommend TV shows to each other and agree to see a movie together.Then discuss ideas together.I think distance is good sometimes.For example, my relationship with my family is much better when we have distance.But when they met, they quarreled.
        我很赞成你的观点。确实异地的关系维护是一门学问。比如说我和我朋友的联系方式是找交集。不单单于局限于过去你们一起度过的时间。你要有时间听她分享。然后去适当的搜索信息。比如说给对方推荐电视剧,然后约定一起看一部电影。然后一起讨论看法。我觉得距离有时候也是蛮好的。比如说我和我家人的关系就在有距离的时候相处的更好。但是一见面就吵架。
        《hebei bonnie》

    • #5216 Score: 2
      Xilin Zhang Kelly
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      20 pts

      在异国他乡,与家人保持联络是很重要的。每周按时与家人视频(约定一个固定的时间会产生仪式感,帮助你在无聊或不自在的异国生活中,产生期待感,以更好的心态度过一周的时间),聊聊在异国的趣闻轶事,以及自己的成功与失败,会有效地缓解思乡之情,慰藉自己的内心。

      In a foreign country, it is essential to keep in touch with your family. Weekly video with your family on time (setting a fixed time will create a sense of ceremony to help you feel at ease in a dull or uncomfortable foreign life with a positive attitude), talk about anecdotes in a foreign country. Also, talk about your success and failure here will effectively alleviate homesickness, comfort your hearts.

      Xilin Zhang Kelly

    • #5590 Score: 0
      NIsekoi
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      Regarding long distance relationships, communication is the most important thing. You may tell your friends, family numbers, and even boyfriend/girlfriend you love them and you miss them so much. Don’t be afraid to express yourself.
      关于长距离关系,沟通是最重要的。 您可能会告诉您的朋友,家庭电话,甚至男朋友/女友,您爱他们,却非常想念他们。 不要害怕表达自己。

      Nisekoi

    • #5609 Score: 0
      Echo Shang
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      12 pts

      During the pandemic, I had my first experience of a long distant relationship. Due to covid-19, my boyfriend and I were unable to go back to school, so we had to rely on internet contact. I think the key to maintaining a long-distance relationship is trusting each other rather than constant suspicion as well as questioning. But long distance relationships while studying abroad may also have to take into account factors like time difference, which makes the situation be more challenging. But if you trust each other enough, there is no problem that can’t be solved.

      Echo Shang.

      在2020年疫情期间,我第一次有了较远距离的恋爱经历。由于covid-19,我和我男朋友无法回学校读书,所以只能靠网络联系。我觉得保持远距离恋情的关键就是互相信任,而不是不断的猜忌以及询问。但是留学期间的远距离恋爱可能还要考虑时差等因素,这会更为困难。不过如果彼此足够信任对方,没有什么问题是解决不了的。

      Echo Shang.

    • #5630 Score: 3
      Corgi
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      38 pts

      I feel that it’s so important to try to stay in touch with our family and friends even if we’re really busy. Long distance can be upset and that is why understanding and communication are so important.

      即使我们很忙也试着和家人朋友多多联系。长距离的相处会使人很沮丧所以理解和沟通特别重要。

      Yani

    • #5715 Score: 0
      Jessica
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      Maintaining a long distance relationship is quite difficult because it completely changes the pattern you get along with someone. Make sure to build some breathing room into the times you spend together. It is not wasted time, but rather helping both of you breathe and connect again.
      保持远距离的关系是很困难的,因为它完全改变了你和某人相处的模式。确保你们在一起的时候有一些喘息的空间。这不是浪费时间,而是帮助你们俩重新呼吸和联系。

      Jessica

    • #5718 Score: 0
      Jessica
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      There is no doubt that long distance relationships require some sacrifice. But it’s important to be careful not to sacrifice more than is necessary. Otherwise, it may breed resentment and regret over time. I think you still need to be yourself when you are in a long distance relationship and make sure that you are trying your best to make the most of the life you have in where you are living in.
      毫无疑问,异地恋需要一些牺牲。但重要的是要小心,不要牺牲太多。否则,随着时间的推移,它可能会滋生怨恨和遗憾。我认为当你在一段异地恋中,你仍然需要做你自己,确保你尽最大努力充分过好你的生活。

      Jessica

    • #5723 Score: 0
      Jessica
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      I think trust is the most important thing in a relationship, especially in a long distance relationship. The work to build and keep trust should go both ways, otherwise, the relationship is very fragile and very likely to fail in long distance experience. For example, when he/she forgot to answer the phone due to jet lag or various reasons, do you suspect that he/she is hiding something to you?
      我认为在一段关系中信任是最重要的,尤其是在远距离的关系中。建立和保持信任的工作应该是双向的,否则,这段关系是非常脆弱的,很可能在远距离经历中失败。例如,当他/她因为时差或其他原因忘记接电话时,你是否怀疑他/她对你有所隐瞒?

      Jessica

    • #5739 Score: 0
      zhanjial
      参与者

      College is the best time to grow up and become independent. At first, loneliness is scary. But it will also make you stronger and will allow you to listen to your heart and become more independent. The time difference can make it hard to call your family at any time. But don’t let this scare you, you will become a stronger person. We are finally here, and I need to become someone who can solve my own problems.

      大学是最好的时间来成长和变得独立。起初,寂寞是可怕的。但是它也会让你变得更强也会让你能够倾听你的心,变得更加独立。时间上的差异会导致很难随时打电话给你的家人。但不要让这个吓到你,你将成为一个更坚强的人。我们终究到了这里,我需要成为一个人能解决自己的问题的人。

      Captain

    • #5762 Score: 0
      Xuyunan
      参与者

      I think how to overcome loneliness is a topic that everyone needs to spend a long time learning. Even in a very familiar environment with good friends around, I often feel very lonely. But what is more special is that I rarely miss home because I have been estranged from my family since I was young. The advantage of this situation is that I will not feel pain because of missing my hometown. The bad thing is that I, therefore, place my sense of belonging and dependence on intimacy. I think I can tolerate long-distance love because I don’t need this person to stay by my side to make me feel safe. However, I couldn’t bear to break up with me in a long-distance relationship. This makes me feel that I can’t go into the cause and make up for the misunderstanding caused by distance. The feeling of trying to find the answer but not knowing how to start is very torture.
      我认为,如何克服孤独感是每个人都需要花上很长的时间去学习的课题。哪怕是在非常熟悉的环境里,身边有很好的朋友围绕,我也经常会感到十分孤独。但比较特殊的是,由于从小和家庭比较疏远,我很少想家。这种情况带来的好处是,我不会因为思念家乡而感到痛苦。不好的是,我因此将归属感和依赖寄托在亲密关系上。我认为我可以忍受远距离恋爱,因为我不需要这个人通过一直待在我身边的方式去来让我获得安全感。但是,我无法忍受在远距离恋爱的状态下对方和我提出分手。这会让我觉得无法深究其原因也无法弥补距离带来的误解。想要找寻答案却根本不知如何下手的感觉是十分折磨的。

      Xuyunan

    • #5764 Score: 0
      Xuyunan
      参与者

      我在疫情期间也经历了一段长距离恋爱。当时的男朋友在确定关系之前已经是很好的朋友,彼此对于这一段恋爱关系也是十分认真的态度。但是仍然没有可以抵得过时间和距离。我认为远距离恋情需要各自足够的感情基础和双方足够坚定的精神力量。不仅如此,还需要足够的运气。不然都很有可能落入俗套的结局。
      I also experienced a long-distance relationship during the epidemic. The boyfriends at that time were already very good friends before the relationship was established, and each other was very serious about this relationship. But there is still no time and distance that can survive. I think that a long-distance relationship requires a sufficient emotional foundation for each and sufficient mental strength for both parties. Not only that but also need enough luck. Otherwise, it is very likely to fall into a cliché ending.

      Xuyunan

    • #5846 Score: 0
      Yinuoz
      参与者

      我觉得对于一段远距离恋爱来说,最重要的就是信任。只有足够的信任才能保持两个人之间的关系。很多时候网络上的文字并不能够完全表达出每个人内心的真实想法,这也是异地情侣恋爱的最大阻碍。所以在冰冷的文字背后要足够相信对方对自己的爱。
      I think for a long-distance love, the most important thing is trust. Only enough trust can maintain the relationship between two people. Most of the time, the words on the Internet can’t fully express everyone’s true thoughts, which is also the biggest obstacle for long-distance lovers to fall in love. So behind the cold words, you have to believe in each other’s love.
      yinuoz

    • #5863 Score: 1
      Xilin Zhang Kelly
      参与者
      20 pts

      和情侣异地时,最重要的是保持对彼此的信任。尊重对方是很重要。猜疑和争吵是影响异地情侣感情的最重要因素,所以和异性一起参加社交活动或独处时,需要及时告知对方,以避免不必要的猜疑。其次,以积极的心态分享彼此的趣事可以给异地的感情升温。而如果心里又不舒服的地方,要及时说出来,有问题当场解决。相隔两地的对方没有办法及时见面发现你的不开心,一个人憋久了会在未来的某天宣泄。换句话说,身处异地的彼此需要相互信任,互相依赖,以度过艰苦的异地岁月。

      When you’re in a long-distance with your lover, the most important thing is to maintain trust. It’s important to respect each other. Suspicions and arguments are the most critical factors in a long-distance relationship, so it’s essential to keep your partner informed when you’re socializing with someone of the opposite sex or when you’re alone to avoid unnecessary suspicion. Secondly, positively sharing funny things can make a long-distance relationship warm up. If you feel uncomfortable in your heart, speak up in time and solve problems on the spot. There is no way to meet each other in time to find you are not happy; a person who suffocated for a long time will vent in the future one day. In other words, people living away from each other need to trust and rely on each other to survive the difficult years.

      Xilin Zhang Kelly

    • #5951 Score: 0
      Liii
      参与者

      在远距离、长时间的阻隔中,备受考验的不仅是亲情和爱情,也有友情。之前朝夕相处的朋友无法见面,也没有办法应邀一起吃饭喝酒,所以感情可能会逐渐淡化。为了防止你珍视的友情被遗忘,你可以主动通过社交APP、电话或视频电话询问他们的近况。不要觉得没有什么话说就没有必要打电话,这会让对方觉得你很珍视你们之间的友谊。此外,如果有可能的话,在节假日邀请他们来你的城市旅行,久别重逢是最快乐的事情了。
      In the long-distance, long-term barrier, the test is family and love and friendship. Previous friends can not meet, can not be invited to eat and drink, so feelings may gradually fade. And to prevent your cherished companies from being forgotten, you can ask about them via social APP、 phone or video calls. Don’t feel like you do n’ t have to call without saying anything, and it makes you feel like you value your friendship. Besides, if possible, inviting them to your city on holidays is the happiest thing to do.

    • #5986 Score: 0
      Jessica
      参与者

      This link is about how to Sustain a Long-Distance Relationship. Some tips maybe useful.
      这段关系是关于如何维持一段异地恋。一些建议可能有用。

      https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/201903/staying-close-how-sustain-long-distance-relationship

      Jessica

    • #6027 Score: 0
      Laura0817
      参与者
      1 pt

      As we grow up, relationship issues have become one of the issues that cannot be ignored. However, due to multiple factors, we are likely to face the situation of being away from our lovers. So how to solve it?
      I think this page of the website will give you many effective suggestions. https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/347100479

      随着我们的长大,感情问题成了不可忽视的问题之一。然而,因为多重因素,我们很有可能会面临与伴侣异地的情况。那么怎么解决呢?
      我认为,这一页网站将会给你很多有效的建议。https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/347100479

      Laura Luo

    • #6040 Score: 0
      jiexx
      参与者

      I think the important thing about maintaining a long-distance relationship is that two people have a common goal. It is a very happy thing for two people to move forward towards a better future.
      我觉得维持异地恋很重要的一点就是两个人要有一个共同的努力目标。两个人一起一点一点向着美好的未来前进是一件很幸福的事。

    • #6112 Score: 0
      Lucy_Xu Suhang
      参与者

      Young people are always concerned about romantic relationships. But in the long-distance situation, it is difficult to maintain a romantic relationship, especially in the transnational relationship. What I want to say is that we’d better keep an independent relationship with the people we love and believe in each other. Because of the time difference, we can’t keep in touch with our lovers all the time. Therefore, we should learn to be independent rather than over dependent when we are not accompanied by our lovers.
      年轻人总是很关注浪漫的关系。但是在长距离的情况下,维持一段浪漫的恋爱关系是很难的,尤其是在跨国的恋爱关系里。我想说的是,我们和相爱的人最好保持独立的关系,并且相信彼此。由于时差的关系,我们和恋人不能每时每刻都保持联系,因此在没有恋人陪伴的时间里,我们要学会独立而不是过分依赖。

      Posted by Anastasia’s friend Lucy

    • #6121 Score: 0
      17
      参与者

      很多人说异地恋很难维持,确实是这样的。我和我的男朋友就是异地恋,我们一个在温州一个在杭州。我们可能平时很少见面,只有放假了才能见到。同时交通费用也很贵。我身边很多人因为异地恋分手。但是我觉得分手很影响心情,特别是在国外,你可能会更孤单。我找到了一些对跨国恋的建议。
      Many people say long distance relationships are hard to maintain, and it’s true. My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. One of us is in Wenzhou and the other is in Hangzhou. We probably don’t see each other very often, only on holidays. Transportation is also very expensive. A lot of people around me have broken up because of long-distance relationships. But I think breaking up is very emotional, especially in a foreign country, you may be more lonely. I’ve found some advice on cross-cultural relationships.
      https://www.iouclub.com/news/detailed_4397.html
      17

    • #6676 Score: 0
      Cheyanne
      参与者

      If both lovers are very confident in their relationship and stick to it, I believe that the time in a different place or a foreign country can pass. From another point of view, the time in a different place or a foreign country is actually a test of the relationship between the two parties. If the last persistence succeeds, then this relationship experience must be very possible. The independent personal time also provides more personal space for each other and more opportunities for thinking.
      我认为异地恋甚至是异国恋是需要有很强的感情基础才能坚持下去的。如果恋人双方都对感情十分有信心坚持下去的话,异地或者异国的时间我相信也是可以熬过去的。换个角度来看,异地或者异国的时间其实也是对双方感情的一种考验,如果最后坚持成功了那么这段感情经历一定是很有价值的。这段独立的个人时间也为彼此提供了更多的个人空间也有更多思考的机会。
      Cheyanne

    • #6677 Score: 0
      Cheyanne
      参与者

      As for the long-distance family relationship, I think to some extent this is a consideration of your independent personality. In China, the relationship between many parents and their children is closer than that in European and American countries, and there are also some instances of moral kidnapping. This solo experience of studying abroad can bring my parents and myself to grow up, and exercise my parents as well. Of course, regular greetings with your parents every month are also indispensable. They must also hope that you will live a safe and healthy life on the other side of the ocean.
      至于远距离的家庭关系的话,我认为某种程度上这是对你独立人格的一种考量。在中国很多父母与子女的关系相较于欧美国家会更亲密,同时也存在一些道德绑架的事例。这段独自的留学经历可以带给父母和自己成长,锻炼了父母也锻炼了自己。当然,每个月固定与父母的寒暄也是必不可少的,他们一定也希望你在大洋彼岸过得安全健康。
      Cheyanne

    • #6777 Score: 0
      JocelynZZZ
      参与者

      异地或是异国对于情侣来说是一项挑战,具体情况需要具体分析。虽然两个人之间的爱应该是不会被时间和距离打败的,但是这两个因素确实会对任何感情都产生影响。对于家庭来说也是一样。当我们远离家乡的时候,平时难免会想家,在一些自己受委屈或者难过的时候会尤其的想家。而对于父母和其他亲人来说也是一样。他们时刻思念着我们,关心担忧着。希望大家做出的这些决定都值得。
      Being in a different place or a foreign country is a challenge for couples, and the specific situation requires specific analysis. Although the love between two people should not be defeated by time and distance, these two factors do have an impact on any relationship. The same is true for families as well. When we are far away from home, we will inevitably feel homesick, especially when we are wronged or sad. It is the same for parents and other relatives. They are always thinking of us, caring and worrying. I hope that these decisions made by everyone are worthwhile.

      JocelynZZZ

    • #6875 Score: 0
      Bob
      参与者

      In my opinion, besides academic pressure, the biggest problem of studying abroad is family affection. When we leave home and leave our country, and come to a foreign country to study alone, although we may have friends to accompany us, we will inevitably feel lonely. Also, Parents may always pay attention to the news, temperature, weather, etc. of the state in the country where we study. In addition, as for the generation of grandparents, they may not understand why you have to travel so far to study in another country. For my grandmother, her biggest wish is that I can eat well, dress well and accompany her more.

      我认为在外国读书除了学业压力外,最大的问题就是亲情。当一个人离开家,离开国家,来到异国他乡独自学习,虽然有朋友的陪伴,但难免会感到独孤的。父母可能会时刻关注你所读书的那个国家的那个州的新闻、温度、天气等等。此外,对于爷爷奶奶那一辈人来说,他们可能不理解你为什么要跑那么远去别的国家读书。对于我外婆来说,她最大的心愿就是我能吃好穿好、多陪陪她。

      Bob

    • #6877 Score: 0
      Bob
      参与者

      I think the long-distance relationship between lovers is more difficult to maintain. Because we are in different countries, it is almost impossible to meet (maybe once a year). Moreover, in a new environment, seeing a new world, meeting new friends, and facing new learning pressure, people’s habits, ways of thinking, and even values may change gradually. All these are difficulties for lovers to maintain their feelings. (although I don’t have a girlfriend yet) I think there must be difficulties, but we should give both our lover and our love enough confidence to keep going together.

      我认为情侣之间的长途关系维系更加困难。因为身处不同国家,见面几乎是不太可能的(也许一年能见面一次)。而且到了新的环境,看到了全新的世界,认识了新的朋友,面临着新的学习压力,人们的习惯、思维方式甚至价值观都可能发生悄然改变,这些都是情侣间维系感情的困难。(虽然我目前还没有女朋友)我认为,困难一定是存在的,但是我们应该给与恋人和我们的爱情足够的信心,能一直走下去的信心。

      Bob

    • #6882 Score: 0
      mtianh
      参与者

      异地恋真的是情侣关系中的一个坎。假如双方不能克服异地恋带来的生活,学习等方面的不同,那这段感情应该就很难走下去了。但是如果能够克服异地恋,那应该没有什么困难可以为难你们了。异地恋最大的问题就是双方不能对另外一个人的生活感同身受。谈恋爱最重要的就是要能够理解对方,但是生活环境的完全不同,以及对对方生活的毫无参与感,都可能是双方争吵的原因。
      The long-distance relationship is really a hurdle in a couple’s relationship. If the two parties cannot overcome the differences in life and learning brought about by the long-distance relationship, it should be difficult for the relationship to go on. But if you can overcome long-distance relationships, then there should be no difficulties to embarrass you.
      The biggest problem with long-distance relationships is that both parties cannot empathize with the other person’s life. The most important thing in falling in love is to be able to understand each other, but the completely different living environment and the lack of participation in each other’s life may be the reason for the quarrel between the two parties.
      mtianh

    • #7100 Score: 0
      Connie 0718
      参与者

      Long-distance or even international relationships can be very challenging for couples.
      If the other party is not around, it may lead to the inability to be with each other when they need themselves. One of my friends just broke up with his girlfriend because he was in China, but his girlfriend was studying in Canada. They both felt very tired and peacefully broke up. I think the most important thing in long-distance love is to trust each other and give yourself and each other enough private space. This article gives ten suggestions to maintain a long-distance love. (https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/truths-about-long-distance-relationships/1543496)
      对于情侣来说,异地恋甚至是跨国恋都是非常具有挑战性的。如果对方不在身边,可能会导致他们在需要自己的时候无法陪伴在对方在一起。我的一个朋友刚和他的女朋友分手,因为他在中国,但他的女朋友在加拿大学习。他们都觉得很累,和平分手了。我觉得异地恋最重要的是互相信任,给自己和对方足够的私人空间。这篇文章给出了保持异地恋的十条建议。(https://www.elitedaly.com/dating/truths-about-long-distance-relationships/1543496)
      Wang Kangyi Connie0718

    • #7247 Score: 0
      Hu Haopeng
      参与者

      我认为异地恋是最难维持的感情,这就是一种柏拉图式爱情,就算他们可以依靠通讯工具来保持联系,但是这也是很难满足的,因为他们的欲望不能得到满足。所以,这可能就是为什么毕业季又是分手季的原因吧。 think long-distance love is the most difficult relationship to maintain. This is a kind of platonic love. Even if they can rely on communication tools to keep in touch, it is difficult to satisfy because their desires cannot be satisfied. So, this may be why the graduation season is the breakup season again.
      Hu Haopeng

    • #7326 Score: 0
      MeganMa
      参与者

      Different people have different feelings and opinions on long-distance feelings. Some people pursue the happiness of getting along day and night when they are in love and seeking close company. In their view, love cannot be an illusory feeling, and only real things can have a final result. When maintaining a long-distance relationship with such a person, people are often frustrated. But for some people, love is spiritual food. Even if two people can’t get along day and night, they will care about each other. But in my opinion, distance is a problem, and distance can make communication between two people a problem. And communication and company are essential things in a relationship. After all, love is not like family affection, and it is a very fragile thing.

      不同的人对远距离的感情有不同的感觉的和看法。有些人在恋爱时追求的是朝夕相处的快乐,追求的是近距离的陪伴。在他们看来,爱情不能是虚无缥缈的感觉,实际的东西才能有最终的结果。在和这样的人维持一段远距离的感情时,人们往往会受到挫折。但是在有些人看来,爱情是精神上的食粮。即使两个人不能够朝夕相处,他们彼此都会牵挂着对方。但是在我看来,距离就是问题,距离会使两个人的沟通成为问题。而沟通和陪伴则是一段感情最重要的东西。毕竟,爱情不像亲情,它是一种很脆弱的东西。

      –MeganMa

    • #7405 Score: 0
      roey
      参与者

      我认为远距离恋爱确实会对一段感情产生影响,但这个影响的大小对于每个人来说却是不一样的。这却决于个人的性格和心态。远距离并不一定意味着两个人的差距的增大。我认为一段感情中,共同进步,共同话题是最重要的。虽然两个人处于不同的国家,身边的朋友圈不同,生活方式也不同。或许会没有共用语言。但其实只要两个人的目标一直,都用心经营感情,把每天发生的有趣的事情分享给对方,也要有耐心去倾听对方每天经历的事情。只有这样,两个人才会一直在一个频道中。

      I think long-distance love does have an impact on a relationship, but the impact is different for everyone. It depends on one’s personality and mentality. Distance doesn’t necessarily mean that the gap between two people increases. I think in a relationship, common progress and common topics are the most important. Although the two people are in different countries, with different circles of friends and different lifestyles. Maybe there’s no common language. But in fact, as long as two people’s goal has been to manage their feelings carefully, share the interesting things that happen every day with each other, and have the patience to listen to each other’s daily experience. Only in this way can two people be on the same channel all the time.

      Roey

    • #7681 Score: 0
      Zhe Sun
      参与者

      Whether you can adapt to a long-distance relationship, I think it depends on the individual. Some people don’t like being alone and like to gather with familiar people, just like social animals. People of this type often weep bitterly because of separation. The other type of people, like me, has no attachment to familiar environments, can better adapt to new environments and are not disgusted with loneliness. Sometimes there is no special homesickness after leaving home for more than half a year. For couples, I think it depends on mutual trust and spiritual resonance.
      是否能适应远距离关系,我认为主要看个人吧。有的人不喜欢孤独,喜欢跟熟悉的人聚集在一起,就像是群居动物。这一类人往会因分别而痛哭流涕。而另一类人,就像我这样的,对熟悉的环境没有什么依恋,能更好地适应新环境,也不反感孤独。有时离开家乡大半年都没有特别的思乡。对于情侣关系,我认为这取决于互相的信任以及精神的共鸣。

      Zhe Sun

    • #8001 Score: 0
      Weeknd
      参与者

      No matter how busy you are in school or your life, set aside a short period of time on the weekend, after dinner, or before a morning activity, to have an intimate video call with your parents. Sometimes, parents do not want to talk with you, but want to see your appearance, listen to your voice, see your smile. In addition, we should learn to communicate selectively. Of course, some things do not need to be told to our parents. I think our parents will also understand. Every generation has its own pressures and responsibilities, its own challenges and pressures, and its own blows and tribulations. There is no need to tell the elders and only add to the worries. There is no need to block your parents from seeing your WeChat Moments because it has a grouping function, you can selectively show your life to your parents.
      不管学业多重、生活再忙,抽出周末的一小段时间,或是晚饭后,或是早上出门活动前,和父母来一次亲密的视频电话。有的时候,父母并不是想要和你聊什么,而是想看看你的样子,听听你的声音,看着你的笑容。另外,我们要学会选择性的交流,有些事情当然不需要让父母知道,我想父母也会理解。每一代人都有自己所要背负的压力和责任,需要自己面对的挑战和压力,和必须自己承受的打击和磨难,没有必要告诉长辈,徒添担忧。也没有必要屏蔽父母看你们的微信朋友圈,因为朋友圈有分组功能,可以选择性地向父母展现自己的生活。
      Weeknd

    • #8113 Score: 0
      yumekai2
      参与者
      24 pts

      My boyfriend studies in Liverpool, the United Kingdom. Most time I feel happy even we are trying to stay in our long-distance relationship. However, sometimes I feel that it is quite hard for me because there is always a time difference and you cannot see him (well you can virtually see).

      我的男朋友在英国利物浦读书。大部分时候我感觉就算我们只是异地也很开心,但有时候我也能感觉到异地实在是太累了,因为有时差,而且不能真的见到他。

      Yumeka.

    • #8151 Score: 0
      Chris
      参与者

      Although I was in school, I would have a video regularly, and they would talk about what interesting things they had bought for their home recently, and I would talk about what delicious food I had eaten and what interesting things happened in class
      虽然在学校,但是我定期会视频,他们会讲讲最近又给家里置办了哪些好玩的东西,我会讲讲自己吃到了哪些好吃的,课堂里发生了哪些趣事
      Chris

    • #8168 Score: 0
      Amy Shi
      参与者

      I think the main reason for a long distance relationship to last is that two people understand each other. In a long distance relationship, two people cannot see each other and can only contact each other through mobile phones, so sometimes we cannot feel each other’s true feelings. Solving this problem requires both parties to communicate regularly and understand each other.Besides,in a long distance relationship, we need to be more forgiving to make the relationship last longer.
      我认为想要保持一段异地恋,两个人最重要的是互相理解对方。 在一段远距离感情中,两个人无法见到对方并且只能通过手机联系。 因此有时我们无法感受到对方的真实情感。 因此想要解决异地恋中的问题, 就需要双方经常沟通并且理解对方。更重要的是,想要保持一段异地恋,我们需要更加宽容的对待对方,不要因为一点小事就互相伤害。
      Amy Shi

    • #8253 Score: 0
      LoganY
      参与者

      异地,确实给恋爱带来了很多新的挑战。
      首先,异地最让人沮丧的,是那些自己最紧迫、最需要回应的需求无法得到满足。因为距离的增加,直接带来的影响是情侣之间的交流受限于空间和时间。比如当一个人生活遭遇挑战和变故,感到难过需要陪伴的时刻,另一个人可能无法在身边,给到一个简单的拥抱;甚至因为时差的原因,一个人想要和伴侣倾诉的欲望也会被要求暂停(等待伴侣能够在线时)。而这种状态,并不是一次两次,而是很长一段时间如此。
      其次,伴侣之间的情感沟通变得更加困难。由于物理距离的限制,情侣之间只能通过视频、简讯来交流感情甚至是解决关系中的问题。而这种媒介可传递的情感线索少,彼此难以清晰地感知到对方的情绪和感觉,因此难免会出现表达不清、误会彼此意思的情况。
      最后,异地状态中的人如果想要打破这种状态,可能需要付出更多的时间和经济上的成本。对于学生和刚刚工作的打工人来说,也确实是一个望而生畏的开销。
      可是,难道这就意味着异地恋就比近距离恋爱更难经营吗?
      异地恋本身也有其独特的优势。比如:异地情侣比起近距离情侣有更强烈表达爱的意愿,因此这让异地恋情侣更容易产生深入的心灵交流。可见,异地并非对关系有弊无利,因现实因素暂时还无法相聚的我们,当然可以经营出一段美好健康的关系。
      这里有一个异地恋健康水平测试:https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/PZFSvn0hUnkhQ9xLlDEmdg

      Long distance, indeed, brings many new challenges to relationships.
      First of all, the most frustrating thing about being long distance is that those needs that are most pressing and that one needs to respond to cannot be met. Because of the increased distance, the immediate impact is that communication between couples is limited by space and time. For example, when one person’s life is experiencing challenges and changes, feeling sad and needing companionship, the other person may not be around to give a simple hug; even because of the time difference, one’s desire to talk to one’s partner will be required to pause (waiting for when the partner can be online). And this state is not once or twice, but for a long time.
      Secondly, it becomes more difficult for partners to communicate emotionally with each other. Due to the physical distance, couples can only communicate their feelings or even solve problems in their relationship through videos and newsletters. This medium can transmit few emotional clues, and it is difficult to clearly perceive each other’s emotions and feelings, so it is inevitable that there will be unclear expressions and misunderstanding of each other’s meaning.
      Finally, people in a long-distance state may need to pay more time and financial costs if they want to break this state. It is also a really daunting expense for students and newly working workers.
      But does that mean that long-distance relationships are harder to manage than close relationships?
      A long distance relationship has its own unique advantages. For example, long distance couples have a stronger desire to express their love than close couples, so this makes it easier for long distance couples to have deeper spiritual communication. It is clear that long distance is not a disadvantage to the relationship, because of the practical factors that temporarily can not get together, we can certainly operate a good and healthy relationship.
      Here is a link to test the stability of long distance relationship: https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/PZFSvn0hUnkhQ9xLlDEmdg

      By LoganY

    • #9386 Score: 0
      1452034116
      参与者

      For parents, even though we are far away, I still have video calls with them often. And I think video calls can bring us closer than phone calls. I will communicate with them in time if there are difficulties or happy events. In my opinion, although my parents do not have as much professional knowledge as I know, their experience in life can guide me and improve my interpersonal skills.
      对于父母,尽管我们相聚很远,但我还是会经常和他们进行视频通话。而且我觉得视频通话比打电话更能拉近我们之间的距离。有什么困难或者喜事我也会及时地和他们沟通,在我看来,虽然父母的专业知识没有我了解的多,但他们为人处世的经验可以指导我,提高我的人际交往能力。
      -1452034116(Zhu Jiarui)

    • #9514 Score: 0
      Botgeralt
      参与者

      It is always difficult to maintain a long distance romantic relationship,
      try to believe each other, and talk about the future,
      you need to meet each other at fixed period,
      set a particular time for phone call, so that you won’t bother each other when he or she is busy
      总是很难去维系一段长距离的感情
      试着相信对方,经常聊起未来关于你们之间的打算
      你们需要隔一段时间见一个面
      设定一个特别的时间为了打电话或者视频,这样就不会打扰对方忙的时候

      Geralt

    • #9518 Score: 0
      Botgeralt
      参与者

      Family relationship is always the strongest bond,
      regular communication by phone or video will release your pressure and
      your parents won’t worry too much.
      Their experience will help you a lot, trust them and open your heart
      家庭总是最强大的联系
      定期的交流可以减轻你的压力,家人也不会那么担心
      他们的经验可以帮助你很多,相信他们并且打开你的心

      Geralt

    • #9754 Score: 0
      Bella Guo
      参与者

      我曾在2019年的暑假去韩国做了45天的志愿者,这是我离开父母和男朋友最长的一次时间。虽然我们经历的事情有所不同,我会经常跟父母分享自己的生活,也会每天晚上睡前跟男朋友打电话。因为很快交到了朋友,会一起出行、一起吃饭、一起工作,很充足,所以孤独感就会减少。社交媒体的迅速性已经大大减少了距离感。在一段感情中,距离不是最重要的问题,关键是双方是否真正喜欢对方,是否忠诚,是否都会为维持这段感情而努力。
      I went to Korea as a volunteer for 45 days in the summer vacation of 2019, which was the longest time I left my parents and boyfriend. Although our experiences are different, I often share my life with my parents and call my boyfriend every night before going to bed. Because I made friends soon, traveling together, eating together, and working together, the time spent very sufficiently, and loneliness was reduced. The rapidity of social media has greatly reduced the sense of distance. In a relationship, distance is not the most important issue, the key is whether both sides really like each other, whether they are loyal, whether they will work hard to maintain the relationship.
      Bella

    • #9755 Score: 0
      Bella Guo
      参与者

      我觉得异地恋最害怕的就是不交流、不信任。他可能因为没有接触到你的生活而不能get到你的点,那是因为你跟他交流的不够多。
      I think the biggest problem of long-distance love is not to communicate and trust. He may not get to your point because he doesn’t touch your life. That’s because you don’t talk with him enough.
      Bella

    • #9770 Score: 0
      Ms.Marple
      参与者

      In my opinion, the effects of distance on relationships are not absolute, and the most significant thing is communication. In other words, you need to learn to understand and tolerate each other’s thinking. You know, no two people in this world are exactly the same, so we should accept the difference in others, as such difference might more easily bring problems in a long distance relationship.
      For this topic, maybe I can share my sad experience here. I used to have a very close friend. Although we only meet offline once a year because of the distance, we use social media to connect with each other frequently. However, in the past few months, we have had some disputes about the meaning of something. I was such a stubborn person that I insisted that my idea was right and waited for her compromise, but what I finally have waited is the estrangement between us. Now I’m trying to repair our friendship, but I know in my heart that it will never be the same. I hope you won’t make the same mistake as I did.

      在我看来,距离对感情的影响不是绝对的,最重要的是沟通。换句话说,你需要学会理解和容忍对方的想法。你知道,这个世界上没有两个人是完全一样的,所以我们应该接受别人的差异,因为这种差异可能更容易给远距离关系带来问题。
      对于这个话题,也许我可以在这里分享我的悲伤经历。我曾经有一个非常要好的朋友。虽然由于距离的关系,我们一年只线下见面一次,但我们经常使用社交媒体联系彼此。然而,在过去的几个月里,我们对一些事情的意义发生了一些争执。我是一个固执的人,我坚持我的想法是正确的,并等待她的妥协,但我最终等到的是我们之间的隔阂。现在我正试图修复我们的友谊,但我心里知道,它将永远不会像以前一样了。我希望你们不要犯和我一样的错误。

      Marple

    • #9897 Score: 0
      Xiong Mingyang
      参与者

      My suggestion is first, keep frequent contact with relatives and friends in China. Modern technology is very advanced, and mobile phone video calls are like face-to-face communication. More communication can ensure intimacy. Second, establish a new social network locally. New friends are also very important and can help people in a foreign country to get rid of loneliness. The following can help you better understand loneliness:

      https://www.zhihu.com/question/32767592/answer/149944798

      我的建议是第一,和国内的亲友保持频繁的联系。现代科技非常发达,手机视频通话就像面对面交流一样。多交流可以保证亲密度。第二,在当地建立新的社交网络。新的朋友也很重要,可以帮助处在异国他乡的人们摆脱孤独感。下面这些可以帮助你更好地了解孤独感:

      https://www.zhihu.com/question/32767592/answer/149944798

      Xiong Mingyang

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